If you live in the USA, you know that we do not live in a relaxed society. If you aren’t running around trying to multi-task and talking about “24/7” and “I need to check my schedule first” and “Oh I have to take this call” and “I have no time for this” you feel like society thinks something is wrong with you. But in reality, once you try to multi-task, your productivity goes down. If you never give yourself a chance to rest and breathe, your health gets worse and you start getting little lines between your eyes and headaches that turn into migraines and you can’t sleep because you keep thinking of everything else you have to do and did you get so-and-so on the schedule and there’s that meeting tomorrow and you have that presentation and you haven’t done the laundry and you still need to clean the house and pick up the kids and,… ad nauseum.
Breathe. Right now. Just take a really long, deep breath and hold it. Straighten your shoulders. Remember that you are in the essential oil world because you care about you and you want to make the world a better place for yourself and everyone around you.
Here’s what you’re going to do.
Turn off your cell phone.
Go ahead. I’ll wait.
Don’t put it on vibrate. Turn it off.
Now, what oils make you feel calm? In control? Able to breathe? Here are a few suggestions to help you get started. (The blends come from Rocky Mountain Oils):
- Singles: Jasmine, Lavender, Geranium, Bergamot, Patchouli, Sandalwood, Lemon, Neroli, Melissa, Red Mandarin
- Blends: Attention Assist, Peace and Quiet, Tranquility, Overcome, Aligning, Revitalize, Potential, Present Moments, Sonata, Uplift, The Secret, Meditation
Take the oil or oils you like and either diffuse them or apply them to the back of your neck, ears and wrists. Use a carrier oil like F.C.O. (Fractionated Coconut Oil) or Jojoba when applying them, if need be.
Personally, I love Sandalwood. That is one of my favorite oils. I also love to make a blend of Sandalwood, Cardamom, a touch of Cinnamon Bark and Red Mandarin and use it as a perfume. Particularly when I am feeling jangled.
What works for you? If you aren’t sure, open a bottle, close your eyes, and sniff. How does it make you feel? Do you feel relaxed? Invigorated? Sleepy? Repulsed? Find one or several that give you a good, relaxed, yet energetic feeling.
Below are a few relaxation exercises. But first, be sure to find a comfortable body position, be in the right state of mind and, in particular, find or create a quiet location that is free of distractions. Try to block out worries and distracting thoughts. And turn off your cell phone!
- Rhythmic breathing: If your breathing is short and hurried, slow it down by taking long, slow breaths. Inhale slowly then exhale slowly. Count slowly to five as you inhale, and then count slowly to five as you exhale. As you exhale slowly, pay attention to how your body naturally relaxes. Recognizing this change will help you to relax even more.
- Deep breathing: Imagine a spot just below your navel. Breathe into that spot, filling your abdomen with air. Let the air fill you from the abdomen up, then let it out, like deflating a balloon. With every long, slow exhalation, you should feel more relaxed.
- Visualized breathing: Find a comfortable place where you can close your eyes, and combine slowed breathing with your imagination. Picture relaxation entering your body and tension leaving your body. Breathe deeply, but in a natural rhythm. Visualize your breath coming into your nostrils, going into your lungs and expanding your chest and abdomen. Then, visualize your breath going out the same way. Continue breathing, but each time you inhale, imagine that you are breathing in more relaxation. Each time you exhale imagine that you are getting rid of a little more tension.
- Progressive muscle relaxation: Switch your thoughts to yourself and your breathing. Take a few deep breaths, exhaling slowly. Mentally scan your body. Notice areas that feel tense or cramped. Quickly loosen up these areas. Let go of as much tension as you can. Roll your shoulders forward and backward several times (stop any movements that cause pain). Let all of your muscles completely relax. Recall a pleasant thought for a few seconds. Take another deep breath and exhale slowly. You should feel relaxed.
- Relaxing to music: Combine relaxation exercises with your favorite music in the background. Select the type of music that lifts your mood or that you find soothing or calming. (Rap is not a good idea right now!) Some people find it easier to relax while listening to specially designed relaxation audio tapes, which provide music and relaxation instructions. Others like Classical. Me, I prefer really good Jazz.
- Mental imagery relaxation: Mental imagery relaxation, or guided imagery, is a proven form of focused relaxation that helps create harmony between the mind and body. Guided imagery coaches you in creating calm, peaceful images in your mind — a “mental escape.” Identify your self-talk, that is, what you are saying to yourself about what is going on with your illness. It is important to identify negative self-talk and develop healthy, positive self-talk. By making affirmations, you can counteract negative thoughts and emotions.
A couple more things
This blog post goes over how you should be thinking. What kinds of things you should say to yourself because no matter what the old rhyme said, words are extremely powerful! What you tell yourself is what you will believe.
And finally, remember this very important point: the best workers in the world understand they need to give themselves a chance to play as hard as they work. So stop thinking 24/7 and start thinking 10/4 or 9/5 and start remembering to go do something fun.
How do you relax? What oils do you like to use? Tell us in the comment section at the bottom of the page.
Oh, you can turn your cell phone back on now. 🙂